Grief Widow Widowers in Addiction need Recovery

Grief and loss has increased my drinking

Widow has become addicted to xanax

My husband died and I sleep all day on pain pills  

It has been 6 months since my husband died.  
We were married for 34 years.

Grief and loss 

has increased my drinking

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Since I was in my late 20's.

How attached we were is hard to explain,
I can't even explain it to myself.

I haven't done any grief groups or grief books like the therapists have suggested.

I am a strong willed person and have felt pretty sure I was just going to tough this out.

I'm a long term member in Alcoholics Anonymous plus hang out with my church people several times a week. I have my work, and my roommates, lots of friends. I love my dog and cats, I exercise. All of this and I used to be a therapist, so I already know everything about coping.
"According to what I tell myself"

It's getting rough. Three years ago I had a stroke. Been off and on "different" since then. In this past week, I've had a couple of seizures or TIA's. "Whatever"

Widow has become 

addicted to xanax

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I'm spaced and can't get out to do my exercise or any of the stuff that makes me feel ok.

It's getting real now. I woke up this morning in a nightmare.

In the dream my husband was calling me on the phone. He was at my Mother's house and I was at my Mum's old neighbor's place.

(My Mum also died just a few months before my husband died.)

In the dream, my husband sounded so stress on this call.

He said "this place is unlivable, I can't stay here, I've got to go."
I felt hysterical and begged him not to go, not to leave without me.
Too painful. I woke up hours ago, and still feel sick and weak.

The best I can do right now, is to sit still. Writing, reading, I'll watch TV, take naps, remember to eat, and let these feeling pass.

I have roommates who will be in and out of the house throughout the day.
Thank God!

I need dog food, which sound like an overwhelming task to me right now.

I'm thinking of grieving widows or widowers who don't have roommates or people coming in and out of their homes.

My heart goes out to people who are drinking or taking pills to deal with crippling grief.

My husband died and I sleep all day on pain pills

Now is the time for your new life, gather what you have learned 
Give yourself and the world your unique essence. 
Call Now for Drug and Alcohol Rehab 
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You took care of the family, you took care of him, 
Now Care for Yourself 
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We are here to help -
We are listening -
We Care -
Call for help. I care, I really do. Nobody can give you the depth of the years of love that you are missing from your spouse.

People can give you moments of kindness and some company. 
Each little nicety feels so much better than the isolation.

Use this tragic loss as a gift. Use this time when life has changed completely to go ahead and go through the changes you've been wishing for.

Call for help.
If you have private health insurance or about $10 thousand cash to use 'and up' Witts Inn can get you into a detox and rehab. That's the best way to go.
You'll get medicine for your cravings.
Therapy to direct you thinking away from resentment, fear, and grief.
A support group helps you to learn how to be hopeful and have fun.
12-step meetings are a part of the treatment experience, a great part.
I love them.

Public insurance plans do not pay for treatment.
If you are working with Obama Care,
Medical, Medicare or low funds look up Alcoholic's Anonymous.
Drag yourself to meetings.
The new life starts in those meeting spots.
For AA to help you have to go most everyday.
A couple times a day is even better.
Find an Alano Club, that's the best access to be able to go to multiple meetings a day.

Some people I know in recovery have had to get sober in the meetings.
Without the benefit of rehab and detox.
It works if you work it.
Treatment centers are the easier softer way.

If there is anyway you can get into treatment - Do It. Give yourself a break.
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Grief and loss has increased my drinking

Widow has become addicted to xanax

My husband died and I sleep all day on pain pills  

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Does Drinking make you depressed?
Depression can also become an addiction

If you think you are a happy drinker, but those around you,
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think you are a problem drinker or an alcoholic, take heed. 

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It is very common not to notice the personality and lifestyle changes taking place in our own lives when it comes to intoxication issues. 

When people who used to love us, act like their feelings are changing 
it is prudent to take a look at one's self through their eyes. 

Alcohol is a depressant.
That means any amount you drink can make you more likely to get the blues. Drinking a lot can harm your brain and lead to depression. 

Alcohol is a depressant, which means it slows the function of the central nervous system. Alcohol actually blocks some of the messages trying to get to the brain. make bad decisions or act on impulse.

THE MORE AND FASTER YOU DRINK THE LESS YOU WILL EXPERIENCE MILD STIMULATING EFFECTS, AND THE MORE YOU WILL FEEL DEPRESSED

If you think you are a happy drinker, but those around you, (those who seem to be loving you less) think you are a problem drinker or an alcoholic, take heed. 

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What can we learn from recovery experts?
Step 1 of  Alcoholics Anonymous
"We admitted we were powerless over alcohol and our lives had become unmanageable." 

Taking the first step the 12 steps made me realize
I was powerless over drugs and my life had become unmanageable.
When I am clean and sober I develop personal power in my own life.

If I drink or use anything, I can't be sure,

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a. How high I am going to    get?
b. What will be the  outcome of my under the  influence behaviors?
c. Will consequences be  only immediate or have  long term effects?
d. When will this bout of  drinking or using end?
e.  Who might get hurt? Me  or others? Emotionally or  physically hurt?


Therapy, Education, and continued Aftercare of 12 step work
began to change my dismay into occasional states of well being.

Step by step this new way of thinking gave me the freedom to have power in the other parts of my life. Working the steps and going to meetings quieted down the voice of my dis-ease.

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I am free to choose how I act and even how I think. I'm learning to put a positive spin on most everything. I feel so much better because of positive thinking. I declare peace on the past and know myself as happy, joyous, and free.

I have come to believe that I gave up enough of my life to fret, worry and
discord. I have changed my mind and choose to walk on the path of hope, good works, and taking very special care of my precious self.

Most of my life I was shy. More than shy, I was afraid of people. I could only communicate by being rough and tough, or a desperate victim.

Raising my hand and sharing in meetings taught me that I do have something to say. The people in the meetings starting responding to me differently when I was able to share about the new solutions I was learning.

If you are wondering what going to all of these 12-step meetings can possibly  do
for you, know that all of us had this same question.

Going to meetings is a new way of spending our time with people.

It is healthy to be around other people who are in the process of making a difference in their own lives and the lives of others.

The people in the meetings are talking about what they are doing to cope.

As alcoholics and addicts we know plenty about the problems of life.
We know all about what we do not want.

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Solution is the message of the program. Meetings are a lifestyle. I go most everyday because that is what I believe will keep me clean and sane.

Getting commitments in meetings and eventually being a part of service taught me about how to interact. In service to AA & NA we learned how to operate a business meeting according to standards but we all said the serenity prayer before we started. In service you find plenty of differing ideas about what is the best way to carry the message of recovery.

The message I got out of this was to accept the things I can not change. It is better to be happy and healthy than it is to be right. 

I learned preserving the power of the group conscious was more important than a personal victory. The lesson I learned in all of this is humility. Humility is not to be confused with humiliation. Humility for me has been about valuing my ability to be a part of systems that benefit me and others. I am able to be an important part of the system without it being all about me. This is a whole new attitude and outlook on life.

Going to meetings and working a program has taught me so many useful skills. One way to love my job is to be responsible. The ability to respond comes along with the ability to be awake for the time I am being paid to respond to my company’s needs. Part of being responsible is to wake up on time with a good attitude about being of service. Another part of this recipe is to go to bed on time. Being able to wake up happy and get excited about my plans for the day is a skill not luck. 

Taking good care of my brain has become very important to me.
Life in addiction was filled with “Oh, I can take it.”
I used to say “When it’s too tough for everybody else, it’s just right for me.” That is a philosophy of the past that no longer serves me. Recovery has taught me if a gentle flow with life is what I desire, it is most reasonable to treat myself and others genteelly. We reap as we sow.

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My name is Dennis and I am an addict in recovery.
I was raised in an upper middle class family.
Our fine home had a black cloud above it filled with alcoholism and even violence.
It was not uncommon to see a police car or ambulance in front of our house.


Upper middle class family of alcoholism and addiction

From an upper middle class family 

that was full of Alcoholism and Addiction 

I hated my home. I stayed out in the streets as much as I could. Out there it was easy to meet people with drugs.
Mind altering gave a young boy full of shame and hate some relief.  

By age 13 the drug use had me sentenced to a year of jail.
Drug abuse and arrests became a cycle that would follow me into the army and then into prison.

For the next 22 years; in and out, recidivism, that was how my life was.
As a matter of fact the course of my life didn't belong to me any more.

There was no me.

In 1999 I was released from prison once again and in a moment of clarity I chose to go into an addiction treatment center called Wits Inn.
This treatment experience would forever change my life.


For the first time, I had a choice about using.
I got to pause, and think about if I wanted to use a substance to change how I feel.
I could decide to staying clean ‘one day at a time’ and learn to like myself.




The classes gave me emotional coping skills as tools I used to stay clean.
My life became manageable.
I liked me for the first time.


I have never had to return to prison.
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I learned I wasn't the ‘dumb ass’ I had been called over and over again as a child.
Once I got clean I ended up in college making straight A’s.
Me, a student on the deans list every year.
I was asked to join the honor society and had perfect attendance.
San Juan Capistrano
College Graduate
with Honors
 

These accomplishments might seem very ordinary to most people but to me they are huge; after living the sham of dropping out of school in the 7th grade.

My long experience of believing myself a failure was being proved as wrong information.  


We have all heard ‘Once an addict, always an addict’ or ‘Addicts don't recover.’
Well the lie is dead.  
‘Addicts Do Recover’ and hundreds of thousands of us make up a group of some very successful people.
Clean addicts in recovery with enriched lives full of love and service.  

Some of the most self actualized people I have ever met are recovering addicts.
So many of us experience financially success by channeling all of the energy it takes to maintain addiction into positive and productive directions.

Recovering addicts who have experienced jail prison recidivism

You would never know about their past experiences with addiction unless you attended some 12 step meetings with them and heard their stories.
We lived to talk about it and we talk about to live.
We share in meetings what it was like, what happened, and what it is like now.


I know these people living a clean life in recovery.
We support each other through everything year after year, decade after decade.
We do the weddings, births, and funerals together.
The knowledge of love and loss is often a support group issue.
We take the power out of our pain by sharing it with each other.


Recovering addicts who have experienced jail prison recidivism Living sober productive lives

The program people are some of my best friends in life.
This freedom from active addiction is here for anyone who really wants it and will be willing to work for it.
Good luck on your journey and God Bless. Dennis H B


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Addicts know what it takes to keep a person relaxed in detox. Painless ‘drug replacement therapies’
Kindness and respect.
A soft atmosphere.
Plenty of comfort medications.





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We can help you get a good comfortable medicine assisted detox and a fairly priced treatment program that will change your thinking and help you get more fun and joy out of life than you have been experiencing.


Wits Inn Recovery is something different, we help you find the treatment setting that offers what you need and what you want.  

Our referrals can work with your private health insurance or your cash budget. You don't have to call all of the different places, we have a knowledge of who offers what.


We believe that every person can find a happy, sane life.
Addiction is not a moral issue.  Addiction is human instincts run wild.
The core of everyone is perfect, whole and complete.
Somewhere along the line came the beliefs that you are not enough and the world is not a safe place. 




This creates stress. Unresolved stress can manifest as addiction.
The truth is people have hurt you, and you have hurt people.


You can have a good life anyway by living in the here and now.
It is OK to live well and be happy. Relax and let go of the struggle.
We will find help to teach you more about how to take care of yourself, be centered, and know you are a remarkable individual who wants to live, love, and be loved effectively.  You deserve all the best life has to offer.


A LIFE WELL-LIVED in Recovery


If you want to drink or use that’s your business
if you want to stop, we'd like to help.  


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As a child my parents introduced me to the Episcopal church.
It was the church of their parents so my introduction was a family rite of passage.

Faith, religion and spirituality.
These are terms people use to discuss their journey to find a source of power to live their lives with strength and purpose.

I remember the Episcopal service, it was heavy in ritual and old world language.  To me, as a young person I felt It lacked warmth and it’s message didn't resonate.


When I was old enough I stopped attending.
I didn't feel the warmth of the spirit.
I was developing faith but I had no personal relationship with God.
I didn't know this until I was much older how much the Episcopal church of my family roots had to offer me.


In high school we were required to attend chapel before class.
The school was an episcopal school so I saw it as still in the same formal religion heavy in ritual.

I learn to believe in God but my idea of God was that he was like the headmaster of my school.
I knew who he was, I knew he made the rules, 
but I wanted to avoid his office.  
I had faith in God and I believed in God but I couldn't connect in a way that gave me comfort when I was troubled or lost.


I remember at the lowest point in my life when my alcohol addiction had me. 
I had no source feeling of strength from God
I really felt alone.
I remember my prayers felt like they had no impact.
God was gone from my life.

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Does God get me sober in Episcopal understanding?

Do I have to believe in God
to go to rehab and get sober?

It wasn't until I went to treatment,
when I became able to start to connect the dots.

In treatment I was introduced to alcoholic anonymous and through AA
I was introduced to a kind of spiritually that I could do business with.
The AA teachings said I need a power greater than my self to turn to as a source of strength to recover from addiction.
I was told I could pick my own conception of God.


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I thought I had faith and I believed in God but I had no Idea how to create a relationship with God.
From a child I had this idea of God as a man behind an oak desk who only dealt with problems much bigger than mine.


In a therapy session in treatment we discussed spiritually and how I could build a relationship.


My therapist said instead of praying for God to come into my life, why not just think a different way.

He went on and said think of God as a power that’s already in me.

Find a way to let him out through my actions.

He said I can grow my relationship with God through my actions.
He said I needed to change my behavior towards the people I encountered in my life.

He suggested doing random acts of kindness for others.
Freely share your time and talent with others.
Start by just holding the door for someone or complementing a loved one or a stranger.
I was taught the way to spiritually was in the kindness I show others.


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I found these ideas were good ways to live my life but I couldn't grasp how doing them would help me build a relationship with God.
I told my therapist this so he asked if I had faith that something bigger than me had intervened in my life and lead me to treatment?
Yes I replied.
He said if i would only try this new philosophy with a mustard seed of faith I might be surprised with the results.


Today .. three years later I'm sober in AA and I have a strong relationship with God.
I have returned to the faith of my birth.

Having a source of strength beyond of self will is a wonderful feeling.
Knowing my higher power has my back helps me stay in the present and enjoy the daily moments of my life.

I don't worry as much about the things which are out of my control.
I just give my best efforts daily and leave the results to God.
My life is so much better without worrying that I need to control the issues in my life.
It worked for me and it can work for you.


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If you'd like to know more about how to get help from a treatment program that does not require you to believe in anything.
Or a Rehab setting that will respect and support your personal spiritual questions -


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We can help you find your path.

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We can help you get a good comfortable medicine assisted detox and a fairly priced treatment program that will change your thinking and help you get more fun and joy out of life than you have been experiencing.

Wits Inn is something different, we help you find the treatment setting that offers what you need and what you want.  Our referrals can work with your private health insurance or your cash budget. You don’t have to call all of the different places, we have a knowledge of who offers what.

We believe that every person can find a happy and sane life.
Addiction is not a moral issue, addiction is human instincts run wild.
The core of everyone is perfect, whole and complete.
Somewhere along the line came the beliefs that you are not enough and the world is not a safe place.  This creates stress. Unresolved stress can manifest as addiction.
The truth is people have hurt you, and you have hurt people.

You can have a good life anyway by living in the here and now. It is OK to live well and be happy. Relax and let go of the struggle. We will find help to teach you more about how to take care of yourself, be centered, and know you are a remarkable individual who wants to live, love, and be loved effectively.  You deserve all the best life has to offer.
A LIFE WELL-LIVED in Recovery
If you want to drink or use that’s your business if you want to stop, we’d like to help.  
Google my name to see more about me and my work
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text my cell 949-413-4109 or Loriann@wirecovery.com
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