I reject the rules of American society

I reject the rules of American society

Somewhere along the line I decided my parents maybe were not the perfect teachers, nor the most intelligent, most loving, most beautiful people in the world.
As I had held belief in parental perfection as absolute truth, I was crushed to find I they may have had faults. I was so angry and hurt by the knowledge of their humanness that I decided they appeared to have more serious faults than most others. These childhood condemnations lead me to lose faith in all established systems and a rebellious spirit became my constant companion.
The first thing I heard in my recovery program was your resentments will kill you. Then in Al Anon I heard “It doesn't matter, doesn't matter, and doesn’t matter.” I knew I was on to something. The fact that every little detail of life was not my business gave me a new idea that forgiveness of others was possible. These revelations lead me to begin to understand self forgiveness was recommended. As I took in these earth shaking concepts they showed me the way I had been thinking was way off. I was promised I'd find peace if I could change my mind.
Addicts sing this song

I reject the rules of American society 

A large portion of my spare time is spent maintaining my spiritual condition. I go to work and I go to meetings, or to my church. I talk on the phone to people who are not using and who want to help me in my recovery; I listen to peaceful music so I can have some meditation. Good food, the decorations in my clean house, exercise like walking my dog on trails I like, this kind of stuff keeps me together. I find my way out of continuing to do things that I don't like. I don’t take part in actions that upset me. Taking care of business doesn't have to include suffering. There is a solution. 

Mission Basilica San Juan Capistrano is a church building and parish of the Roman Catholic Church in San Juan Capistrano, California, United States



My well being is of top priority. Doing what is important to me in a way that I can feel good about myself makes it possible for me to stay clean. Being mindful of other people’s feelings is a part of recovery too. Do no harm. Be polite.
Living our lives trying to make others happy is often one of the key ingredients in the addictive process. This is the selfish part of the program. While recovery is about being of service, and learning how to give; it is also about taking care of yourself so you have something to give. We must always replenish the well. We can't give away something we haven't got. Being of service is not about being a martyr. Stretching beyond our comfort zone is how we grow. There are many paradoxes in the program we must be willing to be a little uncomfortable and try new things, but then find a way to be comfortable in this new action. We can be of service without trying to be who other people want us to be. My adjusted attitude can make what was once impossible very doable. We must find a way to be kind to ourselves and others.
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Find a way to be kind to ourselves and others
Do you ever wonder 

if your life problems or thinking problems 

could partially be caused from your relationship with intoxication?   

Are people who love you saying you have drinking or drug issues?

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My Wife Is Leaving I Can't Stop Drinking.


My Wife Is Leaving I Can't Stop Drinking.


I had my first drink at 12 years old with my cousin. We had a friend buy us a pint of tequila and I got so drunk I crawled home. My parents fast discovered I was drunk and put me to bed with a bucket to use when I got sick. I remember the warm feeling of the tequila going down and the uphorphic way I felt when I started to get high, I loved it. I didn't drink again for a few years but when I did it was on. When I started I could not stop until the booze was gone or until I passed out. This went on for years,

I would binge drink on the weekends. I would black out and get into lots of trouble. I always got drunk at the worst possible moment and embarrass myself and my family. The pain from all the problems I created was nothing compared to the emotional pain I suffered. I would come too after a night of drinking and I’d look outside to see if my car was in the driveway. If the car was there I'd muster up the courage to go check it for damage. I’d prey under my breath that I hadn't hit anything or anyone. I couldn't live with myself and I couldn't stop drinking. I often thought of suicide to end my pain. The truth is that my drinking was a slow suicide. I hated myself and my life. I had lost interest in all the the things I loved. I was hopeless. Over the years I tried to stop on my own but I could not stop drinking. My Wife Is Leaving I Can't Stop Drinking!

One Sunday morning I came too after a night of drinking, I staggered into the living room, I was still drunk from the night before. I was confronted by my family, It was an intervention. After few hours family and their letters describing the pain my drinking created I finally surrendered and agreed to go to an alcohol treatment facility. I went in that day and I'm so glad I did. The medical detox was the gift I needed and in just a few days I was feeling better. In a month I started feeling great. I had hope again. In the therapy sessions I dealt with demons in my head. My problems started to lose the power they had over me. The problems I had ignored were solvable. I started to repair the damage I had done to my family.

My wife and I decided to repair our marriage and going to rehab was the best decision I've made. I wish I would have gone to rehab sooner. Today I'm sober 3 years and my life is wonderful. I have my life back and my family is whole again.

~ JJ

If you can't stop drinking please call us we can help. 949-292-2000

Loriann

Addicted to pain pills how can I quit?


Addicted to pain pills how can I quit?


Letter from a client that beat their addiction to pain pills. 

I always liked pain medication. When I went to the dentists office I always left with pain pills. I didn't need them and then I would take 6 every hour and not the 1 every 6 hours as prescribed. I didn't think it was a problem because when I ran out of the pain meds I'd stop.

I’d stop until the next dentist visit. I now know this was a form of denial. This went on for years, any chance I had to get pain pills from a doctor for what I thought were a legitimate reasons.  I’d get them then take them way too fast but when they were gone I wouldn't seek more. I was ok.. I thought?.

I play golf and I met a guy who was a friend of a friend. We hit it off and started to play golf together often. My friend had been wounded in Vietnam. I discovered that he was getting pain pills every month from the VA. He kept several in his pocket at all times. Knowing this put me on alert. He started giving me pills on the golf course.

This was how it went wrong. He gave me pills in the beginning but later he wanted money. Before long I was paying him hundreds each week to supply my addiction. I tried to stop on my own. I tried to kick it with suboxone but could not do it alone and my life spiralled out of control. I spent thousands of dollars, wrecked cars  and got looked up in a psych ward twice  I was suicidal, I'd lost all hope, my life was in shambles and I couldnt stop using, the withdrawal was a living nightmare, I would get so sick and to stop the pain I used again.

All along I had been going to AA meetings with no success. On a saturday morning in August my family armed with an interventionist showed up in my living room. The next day I was on a plane to treatment. I arrived and with a medical detox I got off the pain meds. After ninety days of treatment I was alive again. I was excited to meet the world when just 3 short months prior I was ready to end my life. With the help of an intervention and residential treatment I have a life today. These days life is good. I work, I'm active in recovery and I have purpose in life. Today I feel whole.

Addicted to pain pills how did I quit? By seeking help.

Are you or someone you love addicted to pain pills?

Don't delay, call me today (949) 292-2000.

Loriann


Sorrow of Addiction become our strength in Recovery, California

Wayne Dyer a favorite author

The Sorrow of Addiction becomes

 our great strength in Recovery 

You need not sink into grave doubts and dark brooding.
The 9th step of the 12-step programs is to make amends 

Step 9. - Made direct amends to such people, wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

Get Sober learn to forgive and experience forgiveness  

The multi-faceted gem that is our sweet sadness 

When viewed from another angle

So easily becomes the light that's refracted


Victory over addiction 

shines a light on those you would help 

No matter what has happen in your life experience; Getting clean and sober in recovery 
will give you the opportunity to make the situation better. 

Many addicts or alcoholics report that by going to detox and rehab followed by 12-step involvement 
feel they have been rocketed into the 4th dimension 
(where solutions fall into place like dominos) 

Death
Abandonment
Violence 
Child endangerment 
Infidelity  
Sexual addiction 
Chronic lies 
Disastrous Disrespect  
Debt 
Ruined Businesses 
Reputation Damage
Embarrassment
Elder Abuse
Illness
Bodily Injuries 

These emotional horrors and all of the rest can be put behind you. 
You can start anew. 
Suffering becomes optional in recovery. 

To inquire into this option 

call 949-292-2000

or text 949-413-4109

Wayne Dyer

Wayne Dyer a favorite author  

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I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost .... I am helpless.
It isn't my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. 
I pretend that I don't see it.
I fall in again.
I can't believe I am in this same place.
But, it isn't my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
see it is there.
I still fall in ... it's a habit ... but, my eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

I walk down another street.

7/2/2011   Tags:  sidewalk of life, wayne dyer, life story
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Addicted to Heroin in San Clemente


Addicted to Heroin in San Clemente

Letter From the Parent of a San Clemente Heroin Addict

Our twenty one year old daughter came back to live with us after living away for nine months. She left because of a drug conviction. It turns out her first boyfriend was the local high school drug connection selling meth, heroin, pain pills and speed, as well as a petty theft.

Turns out the kid was stealing from  us and our neighbors. He took my wife's jewelry and my power tools. It was just a matter of time before they got busted. He went to jail and our daughter got probation on the condition she’d go to treatment. She completed a 14 day program and a 5 day detox from heroin .

I now know her stay wasn't long enough. When she exited treatment she rented a room and worked in a bakery and did well ..  we thought. Things were fine for the first month.  Then she started making short trips in and out of the house meeting different boys, next we found burnt tin foil on the floor in her bedroom.

We went out to dinner and she started nodding her head  like she was falling asleep. These are all signs of smoking or shooting heroin. She was again addicted to heroin in San Clemente.

We confronted her on her drug abuse  and she denied it. When confronted she would get angry and storm away. Her behavior was disrupting  the whole house, her brother and sister stayed upset with her behavior. We told her she had to get clean or move. She moved out again and now shes homeless living on the streets between Dana Point and San Clemente smoking heroin, marijuana and doing pain pills and meth. We've offered her medical detox and drug  treatment countless times.  We had a homemade intervention, she listened  but she didn't want to get clean. Our next step is a professional interventionist  then a  stay in a residential drug and treatment center in Dana Point Ca.

I know she went to treatment once but some kids need a second try and I've done my research.

Intervention and residential  treatment is our best option. She has an heroin addiction. Its a horrible disease and I won't leave her living on the streets without trying to help,  Interventions have a high success rate and once we get her in a residential treatment and detox her she has a chance. In the treatment center  They can teach and reinforce the skills and tools necessary for her to have a sober productive life.

Need an intervention in your life or the life of a loved one?

Call us today, we can help. (949) 292-2000.

Loriann


Addicts come home for christmas, guess who's coming to dinner

Guess who's coming to dinner

Addict go Home for Christmas

Addicts come home to be with family Christmas  

Holiday expectations, and the fears of Christmas past creates family stress

Addicts are often unable to give or receive love effectively

Not just during the holidays. This is a common symptom of active addiction

Addicts are just people.

Their behavioral patterns are natural human instincts run crazy.  



In Recovery I have learned how to handle my feelings.

When my emotions affect my mood and make me unhappy or anxious,

 I remember

Feelings are only thoughts -- And thoughts can be changed.

I get into action to change my mind so I can change my experience


Love Everybody?

Not many people can truthfully assert that they love everybody. Most of us must admit that we have loved but a few; that we have been quite indifferent to the many. As for the remainder -- well, we have really disliked or hated them.

We A.A.'s find we need something much better than this in order to keep our balance. The idea that we can be possessively loving of a few, can ignore the many, and can continue to fear or hate anybody at all, has to be abandoned, if only a little at a time.

We can try to stop making unreasonable demands upon those we love. We can show kindness where we had formerly shown none. With those we dislike we can at least begin to practice justice and courtesy, perhaps going out of our way at times to understand and help them.

TWELVE AND TWELVE, PP. 92-93


And now it is Christmas,
We long for the warmth and comfort of the illusion of Christmas
The kind we saw on a postcard somewhere.

Guess Who's Coming to Dinner

The new you?  Or the same ol you?


Have a Merry Christmas, 

Unless you've made other plans

People can suffer at this holiday time of year longing for the warmth and joy of the illusion of Christmas. AA has taught me that the celebration last as long as I'm at the meeting, the family get together, the AA party, or the intimate love dinner, then it's back to the regular joy of the life I give myself. I am grateful, HP is alive in my mind one minute at a time. Be here, Now.

Starting to get depressed.
Pulled out of it. 
I have made a promise to myself in recovery to "Stay Cool, Be Grateful, & rock steady." 
All is well. 
Crazy is way too hard on me!!! 
I will not let my thoughts drag me into the dirt. 

Are you drinking or using maybe too much or too often? 

Are you only getting high occasionally, but seem to be

experiencing consequences?

Do you ever wonder 

if your life problems or thinking problems 

could partially be caused from your relationship with intoxication?   

Are people who love you saying you have drinking or drug issues?

It's Ok to go natural for a while. 
Learn what mind altering does to you, what it does for you. 

Your insurance will probable afford you a rehab experience. 

Call 949-292-2000

Helping people and families with Drug, Alcohol, challenges.  
Services ranging from  
1. Medicine assisted detox,  
2. Rehab treatment centers,  
3. Dual diagnosis programs (addicts who also have mental health care needs),  
5. Facilitated family interventions (When families want help to get their loved one to treatment)  
6. Evaluations & Assessments  
Call us 949-292-2000 or text 949-413-4109  
We verify your PPO, HMO insurance finding an rehab for lowest co-pay / 
or no out of pocket or Cash your price range_______ 






Life as it is Gratitude and Grace detox and rehab

Life as it is.      Gratitude and Grace 

All inclusive acceptance and encouragement is the truth of America
People are often unreasonable and self-centered. 
Forgive them Anyway

If your are Kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives
be Kind Anyway.

If you are Honest, people may cheat you,
be Honest Anyway

If you find Happiness, people may be jealous, 
be Happy Anyway

The Good you do today, may be forgotten tomorrow.
Do Good Anyway

Give the world the Best you have and it may never be enough,
give the Best Anyway.

For you see in the end, it is between you and God,
It never was between you and them Anyway. 

I have the path of love and respect
as a way to live in the presence of the Divine. 

Clearly see the bright shining light of tolerance.

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