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Once you have decided to do the intervention, we let nothing stop us from moving forward
The addict and the enablers have been a part of the problem
The solution is professional help, Now is the time
Addicts do recover
The interventionist supports you in stopping the disease process
and getting the recovery process started now
You pick your team from family and friends who are supporting you in this effort
The intervention can also be done by just you and the interventionist
The Interventions spends up to three days time with you. We take the time to prepare your intervention team to feel completely ready & empowered with the knowledge of how to present the treatment plan attractively a manner of dignity and respect
Love the person into an open mindwith heartfelt talk, sincerity, and some humor
Best case scenario, is to write the consequences separately
only to be used by the rehab therapist if needed as a block to prevent an untimely discharge from treatment if your loved one becomes compulsive, or has cravings while in the program
The pre intervention meetings can last a couple of hours once or twice before the
actual intervention morning
When we are ready We meet with your loved one upon their awakening
What ever the time of their personal morning is expected to start
Before they have a chance to get intoxicated or bogged down by their day
INTERVENTION LETTER GUIDELINES
The most important part of the intervention is the letter that you will be writing,
and reading OUT LOUD to your loved one.
Everyone participating in the intervention must write a letter.
This letter is to be written prior to the intervention written in the first person (Dear John), and must be read out loud, during the intervention,
by the person who wrote it (unless they cannot be there).
An intervention letter is composed of 6 parts.
Please write your letter using the following guidelines:
Is an Intervention Negotiation Strategy
Dig Deep and express your true feelings -
This is the time, NOW to get these things from your heart to theirs
Part 1 – Identification
Introduce the power of the relationship. For example: “I have loved you unconditionally since the before you were born”.
Please name your relationship. For example: “We have been friends for over 20 years”.
Remove all objections before they arise.
For example: “I realize that I have contributed to your disease by drinking with you on many occasions and I am sorry”.
Part 2 – Love
Why do you love this person? Please list all their positive attributes.
Please talk about your fondest memories and experiences with your loved one, with humor
Please talk about times you have been proud and grateful to have them in your life.
Part 3 – Changes
What has addiction changed about your loved one’s personality?
What has changed about your relationship with your loved one?
Part 4 – The Facts
Please list as many specific incidents that have been a direct result of your
loved one’s substance abuse. For example: “On Thanksgiving last year, you
got so drunk that we pleaded with you not to drive home."
You wouldn’t listen and on the way home, you were pulled over and arrested for a DUI”.
Please be brief, specific, and only discuss incidents that you witnessed firsthand.
Let us not talk about unknown things that will make them want to argue the facts.
Please refrain from using any judgmental language.
Part 4 - Apology
Your loved one may be willing to die while waiting for an apology.
At the base of the broken heart of
Addiction is true or perceived trauma. As you have noticed the addict holds a lot of blame for others. If this desire for an apology is keeping this person sick and robbing them of their will to live; now is the time to give the apology to them. We could of course have done better. No human interaction is perfect. In the clear light of hind sight see what YOU have said or done to harm this sick & dying person. Go to any length to save their life now. Give the gift of apology.
We are not here in intervention to present "we are right & you are wrong"
State a desire to change. We all need to learn more and change in recovery.
Addiction is a family disease.
Part 5 – Understanding
- This is the part of your letter where you let your loved one know that you
understand that they are sick and that this addiction is not their fault.
Please let them know that you understand that this is not a matter of willpower or “weak character”.
However, this is also where you let them know that while it is not their fault that they have a disease.
State that they are the only one who can take the action to change their own mind & is their fault if they choose to do nothing about…
Say The family has decided to no longer take part in your suffering
We are giving you this support to change your life experience and Today is the Day!!!
Part 6- The Ask
Please end your by letter saying whatever you feel you haven’t gotten a chance to say to you loved one.
Briefly explain the research you have done and how you believe this to be the best and most comfortable treatment center for them.
Let them know that you have done your due diligence and would not send them to a place where you would not go yourself, if you needed to.
Most importantly, please end your letter by asking your loved one to accept help. Be direct and specific. For example:
“Please accept the help that we are offering, I love you and want you to go into treatment today with Loriann."
Loriann Witte CAC, RAS, CNDAI
Cell phone # 949-413-4109
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